Find it hard to get the family together for that perfect group shot? Here’s 3 ways to make it perfect.


By Rina Schiffman


The scene: a big family party, everyone all together for the only time this year. “Everyone come here, we’re taking a picture!!” the parents yell, and the older kids groan and grumble and/or ignore you while the little ones continue running around, high on sugar, faces coated with jelly and chocolate. The teens don’t even look up from their phones. After a half hour of chasing everyone down and jumping around to get everyone to look in the vaguest direction of the camera, you’re lucky if you get even one picture with everyone in it, let alone smiling.

It doesn’t have to be this way! Here are 3 simple tips to help you get a really great group picture that everyone will love (and perhaps make you everyone’s favorite relative for a while).

1) Appoint one designated noisemaker

Here’s what usually happens when trying to take a picture of a bunch of kids from a bunch of families. About 10 moms and dads all stand in front of the kids, each of them yelling to their own kids to, “LOOK HERE! CHANI, PUT YOUR HAND DOWN! YOSSI STOP STICKING OUT YOUR TONGUE, I’M GONNA TAKE AWAY YOUR PRESENT IF YOU DON’T STOP! LOOK AT THE CAMERA! SMILLLLEEEE! SAY CHEESE EVERYONE! SARAH, SMILE NICELY, NOT LIKE THAT!”

What happens as a result is that all the kids are looking in 10 different directions, most of them getting stressed out from all the pressure, and the shot looks terrible. Instead, choose only ONE person to stand right behind the person taking the picture, and have all other adults stand BEHIND them, so no one is distracted by parents off to the sides. That one designated noisemaker should be the ONLY one to make noise, funny faces, or jump around yelling on the top of his/her lungs while juggling donuts (hey, whatever works) so that everyone is looking in the direction of the camera. No other people should talk or be distracting. This one tip alone will drastically improve your group photos!

2) Do it early

As soon as everyone has arrived, announce that you’re doing a quick group photo now, before people have a chance to disappear, and before the kids get wild and messy and start eating. No one likes being interrupted in middle of a good party to get up and take a picture, and it will be much harder to get everyone all together once the party has really started. Do the picture early while everyone is still fresh, and then you can enjoy the rest of the party knowing you got it done. Especially when dealing with lots of young children, doing the photo at the start ensures you’re not dealing with cranky, overtired, messy or hyper kids (see scowling red-headed toddler in photo below).

3) Use different levels

Pose the group on levels of varying heights to make the group look like one unit. The easiest way to do this is on steps (go outside to the front of the house if you’re able). Use 2-4 rows, depending on how big the group is, with the tallest people at the top. This is a very basic rule in photography posing, for the simple reason that it breaks up a long, symmetrical line of heads into a much more visually pleasing composition with heads at different levels. If no staircases are available, you can achieve the same effect by having one row standing, one row sitting on chairs, and one row sitting on the floor. Get creative and use whatever is available—a big sofa can be an adorable way to get everyone in the perfect setup (have some sitting on the top of it, some standing on it, some sitting, etc.)

Let’s look at a photo example below, taken at my son’s upsherin party. In this photo, I only followed one of my tips: I used steps to create two levels. However, I did not attempt this shot until almost the end of the party, so it was hard to get everyone’s cooperation, and a few of the toddlers were totally not happy. Another mistake I made was neglecting to tell all the other adults to get behind me, so that’s why everyone is looking in different directions. My siblings were all standing to the left of me making noise and trying to get everyone to smile. If they’d have been behind me (which they actually physically couldn’t in this case, as I was backed up against a tree) we would have gotten much better eye contact from all the kids. However, despite all that, we all still love this photo of all the cousins, because they look like they’re having a blast and you can definitely see all the different personalities here. So if you can’t get that perfect shot, just keep snapping anyway, and embrace the realness of everything going on in the scene!

I hope these tips help you improve your group photos this year! Enjoy all the family time!

About Rina:

Rina Schiffman is a professional photographer who has taken hundreds of family portraits over the years. Her fully equipped, spacious studio is located in Spring Valley, NY. She takes pride in the amazing portrait experience she provides for her clients, and loves knowing that her baby, child, and family portraits hang as treasured pieces of art in homes around the tri-state area. To view her work and to find out how she can help you obtain your own truly beautiful family portrait, go to, or find her on instagram @rina_schiffman_photography.



  1. Great article. I was laughing at the how not to take photos bit as that is exactly how our last get together was. The second photo wasn’t included though and would be very helpful to see it


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