Even without a party, a birthday can be a special, memorable day…it’s the little details that make a difference.
We make a big deal about birthdays around here. Of course, I love planning big bashes, but those are very often not on the actual birthday, but rather on a convenient day near it (i.e. one of my kids was born 3 days before Pesach). But on the “day of,” I love to create little moments that make the hero of the day feel special.
We start the night before by reading the birthday book, aka On the Night You Were Born by Nancy Tillman. As they get older, another good choice is Happy Birthday to You by Dr Seuss.
A rousing rendition of “Happy Birthday” takes the place of the usual “time to get up or you’ll miss the bus” wake up call. Cupcakes for breakfast are known to sometimes happen. And an extra treat finds its way into the backpack to be discovered at school.
My kids love going to restaurants so the birthday boy/girl gets to decide where we should go for dinner. (It’s almost always the same place.) And there must be a dessert with sparklers and the staff singing. It wouldn’t be complete without that embarrassing attention!
Some other little things we’ve done over the years:
- Decorate the kitchen with streamers and balloons before the child gets home from school
- Have the child dismissed early from school and pick him up—with no advance notice.
- Let the birthday boy/girl decide what activity the family should do and everyone has to join.
- Start spontaneous dance parties at random times throughout the day.
- Slip a silly card into a backpack, under a pillow, etc.
- On a Sunday birthday, have ice cream for lunch. And then for dinner.
- Invite some cousins or friends to join the kids at the ice cream store.
- Go around the table and have everyone say some things that are special about the birthday child.
Please share your favorite birthday traditions in a comment below. I’d love to surprise my kids with some new ideas this year!
כתבה נהדרת! המסורת שלי היא לנשק את ילד/ת היום הולדת בנשיקות כמספר השנים שמלאו לו/ה. מדהים לראות שכל שנה הם מתרגשים מחדש, גם כשמלאו להם 17 ו-18 שנים (כן… הרבה נשיקות בבת אחת רק ביום ההולדת?). אחרי הכל, בכל אחד מאיתנו טמון ה׳ילד הקטן׳ ונשיקה מאמא/אבא בכל שלב בחיים חשובה מאד.
We once got the amount of helium balloons for my husbands age. And then at night we released them from the roof of their grandfathers office … they’ll never forget it
Before the birthday, siblings draw birthday posters on oak tag from the dollar store which we hang up together with streamers and balloons. On the night of the birthday we have dessert with singing, dancing and of course lifting on the chair. We go around the table and everyone says something nice about the birthday boy/girl, and can also give a brocha for their year ahead. The whole family says a few pesukim of the celebrant’s new kapitel Tehillim and gives tzedakah in their honor. Sometimes an older child will prepare a cute game (like hangman).
The Shabbos before or after the birthday gets a fancy birthday cake for dessert (homemade or store bought) together with all the singing and attention. Bonus if you have family or friends over for the seudah.
Between a trip to the dollar store and bakery, every birthday becomes a week long celebration making the birthday boy/girl feel special and creating great family spirit!
The birthday child gets to pick the supper that night and there is a special dessert for that night as well