A confident child can do anything. And that confidence is in your hands as a parent.
Before I sat down to write this list, I discussed with my husband all the things we tried doing for our children, and all the things we always talk about doing. And the most important of them all is love love love them to pieces. Every person/child has so many beautiful qualities so just focus on those, not on the faults (which everyone has too)
Teach them to love themselves!! If you love yourself in a healthy way they will feed off that and love themselves too. Do not ever be jealous of your children or compete with them
And of course daven, daven, daven, and daven that HASHEM should give you the siyata d’Shmaya to raise strong children.
Compliment your children all the time, especially on specific things. Too much is never too much.
Make them feel important.
Don’t criticize too much.
Make sure they hear you say to others (grandmother etc.) how great they are and what a good job they did, be it babysitting, cleaning up, or baking.
Let them know that they make your life so much more meaningful.
Give them the opportunity to do something (a task) and don’t involve yourself. Just tell them how proud and incredible they are.
Teach them many skills when they’re growing up. Encourage them!
Show kindness to your spouse and to your children.
Advocate for them always. They only have one mom to do that.
Tell them that they make you smile and you are so happy to be with them.
Be confident in whatever you are doing and kids will see that and want to emulate that.
Be satisfied and happy with whatever stage you are in.
Take joy in your daily activities and tell the children how happy you are when they have vacation. Even when they’re not feeling well, tell them you’re happy they get a chance to be home with you.
Have complete faith in your kids that they will succeed and you are proud of them.
In a large family, make sure each child shines in something.
Let the siblings rely on one another and tell them to use the strength that each one has to help each other. For example, one can write/ draw/ fix things. Whatever it is let that sibling help the others using their specific talent.
If the parents show unconditional love, no matter what the child did that might have disappointed them, but the child knows he’s so loved—the confidence will stay.
Tell your children they come from great parents/grandparents etc and we are proud of who they were or are and we want to be “stultz” with that. It will build a strong child who knows who he is and he wants to be that.
Treat each child like they’re the only ones you have and the most important person to you.
Mistakes are ways to continue growing.
When they marry make sure to compliment their spouse to them and show how happy you are with them.
Let them make their own decisions and support them with that.
Tell them that they’re such amazing parents to their kids and you love how they are bringing up their children. That gives them the confidence to be strong.