Lots of moms are hard on themselves and it isn’t productive. You can change your thought process and turn the narrative around. “Maybe I’m Just A Bad Mommy…” This statement makes my heart hurt. Sometimes, I receive emails from mothers: “What if my kid isn’t complex. What if I’m just a bad mom…” If this is a…
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Growing Into Good Behavior: Transforming Challenging Behavior From Its Roots
This coming May 2nd, 4th and 8th, Ilyssa Bass, PhD will be offering a FREE, 3 part workshop to help you get to the root of your child’s (or children’s) most difficult behavior. To learn more, click here or go to drilyssabass.com/workshop I had a baby who didn’t sleep. He turned into a toddler who had…
When Is Sibling Rivalry Considered Extreme?
Sibling rivalry is very normal. Kids fight, and you feel better when we tell you that. But how do you know if it’s really not normal? Sibling Rivalry is normal. It’s hard to share your space, your stuff and your parents; it’s hard not to compare yourself to someone who is in your face all…
Parenting as a Trauma Survivor: Learning to Do It Differently
Did you experience trauma in your own childhood, which affects how you relate or view your own childrens’ experiences? If you’re anything like the typical BCP reader, you find yourself drawn to articles that speak to both your head and your heart. That’s why I’m so happy to be here. I’ve finally found the people…
It’s Normal! Are You Viewing Your Child’s Behavior in Context?
Often, how they’re acting is exactly as a healthy child should! Were you really disappointed when that ladies’ day out you planned didn’t pan out due to inclement weather? It can’t be you were frustrated that the kids left their shoes right at the doorstep when they came home from school. And did you seriously…
What Does The Mother You Thought You’d Be Look Like?
How to let go of the ideal and strive in a more productive way. The mother I thought I would be… “The mother I thought I would be” is always put together, always patient, always ready to listen with baked goods in the oven, clean house, clean clothes, and a clean car. She is creative and organized; she works full time and also…
What Are We Supposed to Do When a Child is Chutzpadik?
Rabbi Dov Brezak changes our perspective on chutzpah…and offers practical solutions. Let’s study chutzpah: Attitude, aka chutzpah, is all over the place. The likes of which we’ve never seen. Children calling their parents by their first names, children hitting their parents, children throwing things at parents, parents afraid of children basically. It exists. And some…
The Happening Home is More Than Just the Newest, Cutest Children’s CD
Meet the Beane family and get your day moving to music with The Happening Home! As I was listening to the sampler of The Happening Home, my 6-year-old recognized the music, “Oh! My friend has this CD! I hear it in carpool!” and she started singing some of the lyrics and dancing to the tune. …
Have a High-Stress Child? You’re Not Alone!
Connecting to Your Complex Kid/s: Creating Deep and Lasting Connection (Even in the Presence of High-Stress Behavior!)? Join Dr. Ilyssa Bass for a free webinar this Sunday! As a clinical psychologist, Dr. Ilyssa Bass thought that she’d be really prepared for motherhood. After all, who can better understand all of a child’s different needs than…
How To Prepare Your Child For Surgery
How much do we want to say? What do they need to know? How do you explain? It is never easy, sending your child off to get a procedure done, no matter how minimal and “routine” it may be. Waving goodbye to your son or daughter, knowing that they are going into an operating room,…