Take a deep breath and listen up. It isn’t easy, but we have some tips that can help.
The first piece of advice I can offer is – don’t do it. If it’s at all possible, if you’re planning major construction, move out of your house. Don’t tell yourself it’ll just be a few months and you’ll put up with it. It will test you to the max.
If you can’t move out, you’ll need some advice. I can offer some from my personal experience and hopefully more readers can share their ideas and opinions in the comments section.
Here we go:
- However long you are told to expect the project to take, assume it will take 50% longer. If it doesn’t, you win. If it does, at least you won’t feel like you lost.
- Same goes for costs, but this post will not be dealing with finances.
- Accept the fact that you will have no privacy for the duration of the project. Your contractor and all the subcontractors will know everything about you by the time it’s over. You will step out of your bedroom in the morning and there will very possibly be men on the other side of the door. (Make sure your locks work…)
- Pack up your house as if you are moving out. We rented a storage container and kept it in our backyard. If you pack well and label all your boxes, you’ll be able to access what you need as the seasons change. You will need your Chanukah stuff – and the camp box – but not at the same time.
Whatever stays in the house will be covered in dust, so just move it out. Purge purge purge. When in doubt, just get rid of it. Throw it out or donate it, but don’t pack it up just to unpack it – and then throw it out.
- Realistically, you do need stuff when you’re living there. You will be moving things from place to place as the space is needed. For as long as the project lasts – and beyond – you will be moving things. And very often you’ll have little notice of when that needs to happen. So keep it to the minimum.
- If you have water and power at any given moment, put in a load of laundry. No guarantees that you’ll still be able to later in the day. Same goes for showers – don’t ever say you’ll shower in the morning. If the shower is working at night, use it.
- If some of the work looks wrong, speak up! It’s a lot easier to fix a mis-measured framing issue before the sheetrock goes up. At some point you will feel like you may as well be the contractor, and it’s true to some extent. Stay on top of whatever you can.
- Even if you never use disposable dishes or a plastic tablecloth, embrace it for the time being. See the note above…
Things to buy or borrow that can help:
- A proper tape measure. You will be measuring constantly. (The subcontractors will take you more seriously if you have a real tape measure.)
- Wet/Dry Vacuum. Construction dust will kill your regular vacuum in no time.
- Clothing racks on wheels. These can function as temporary closets and laundry facilities. You will probably need to move them from place to place.
- Shelving units on wheels. I had several sets in constant use. One held all my laundry and cleaning supplies. One held the seforim that couldn’t be packed up. Another was a mobile “office.” Sometimes you’ll need them for a bedroom. Don’t skip this. The wheels are super important!
- A couple of small folding tables. Better to have two small ones than a big one. It’ll be easier to maneuver and use where it’s needed.
- Soft folding bins like Ikea Skubbs. These are lightweight and pretty affordable. They’ll help you organize all your temporary spaces, and also make transferring things from place to place easier.
- Noise canceling headphones. Don’t think this needs explanation.
Living Without a Kitchen (shoutout to @idymarms for her input):
- Use lots of disposables (cutting boards too!)
- Crock Pot, Betty Crocker, electric burner, and a toaster oven that holds a 9×13. Those are the appliances that will get you through. Choose which you need for meat and/or dairy based on the foods your family will eat.
- Use shortcuts – frozen schnitzel, Meal Mart meatballs, falafel…
- Keep a bug zapper on a nearby shelf, but not too close to food. When you’re not in your kitchen, you’re more likely to get annoying fruit flies and other flying creatures.
- If you have space, set 2 smaller tables as your counters rather than one larger – one for dairy and hot water, the other for meat.
- Set up your “temporary kitchen” for longer than you anticipate needing it. Otherwise, you’ll keep telling yourself that it’s not worth it for only one more week and you’ll find yourself eating takeout for weeks on end.
- Accept Shabbos and Yom Tov invitations.
- A mini fridge is great if you don’t have access to a large one. Get the biggest one you can afford and can fit in the space. Make sure it has a freezer compartment.
Aaron H says
As a contractor I love this article. Beautifully written!
Except for 2 notes.
1. If something is wrong speak up. Stay on top of things. To some extent yes. But please for ur own sanity DONT DO IT EVERY DAY!!! homeowners tend to not have any clue what is supposed to happen when and the last thing u want is ur contractor feeling like he’s micromanaged. So yes be on top of things but not more than once a week or every other week.
2. Subs take u seriously if u have a tape measure. That’s a ridiculous thought. Don’t understand what that has to do with anything.
Also one point left out. It should be added that being that ur living in the house it may be tempting to bother and ask the builder every day what’s happening today, u missed something or why did this worker show up 20 minutes late. Please don’t do that. It’s incredibly annoying.
Michelle Ritter says
Shouldn’t the customer be involved in the process of building/renovating their home? Why is it considered “bothering” to bring up concerns, especially when they may need to be rectified in order to move forward? Waiting a week, or days, can result in having to move backwards in order to undo things that were done incorrectly.
Building a home needs to be a collaborative and respectful process between the homeowner and contractor.
Mindy says
I agree to watch what’s going on and not specifically “wait a week” to address an issue. Being in the house allows you to see what’s happening in real time. Mistakes do happen, usually as a result of mis-communication or lack of proper communication. Being on site saved me from costly and time consuming mistakes since I was able to notice right away. Being respectful and calm – non blaming – is the key to making this work. And buying treats and coffees often helps too 🙂
One thing I would add – always always err on the side of caution when covering or protecting things. Yes it takes extra time and may be inconvenient but I can guarantee you will never regret extra protection, and always regret less.
Aaron H says
100% customer should be involved in the process. I encourage my customers to be involved. But many people dont understand how much to be involved.
Building a home is not like going to a supermarket where u throw stuff in the cart, pay for it and leave.
Building a home is a long process where each stage can last from a few days to a few months.
So it isnt necessary to walk the site every day and point out what u like and dont like thinking it shouldve been fixed already. Remember, u hired this contractor because u dont know how to build ur home. He does.
My method is to walk the site together with the customer after each stage or even a few times during a stage. And especially b4 we sheetrock we do a very thorough walkthru. Because trust me Its a bigger nightmare for the contractor than the homeowner when we have to deal with messups.
And if ur contractor is so bad that he will not catch any messups without u pointing it out. Then he prob would’ve been out of business by now…
B.L says
I know someone who had a weekly meeting with the contractor, usually Sunday morning. They discussed progress and plans for that week. It worked because then he didn’t feel micromanaged yet they were also aware of what was going on. It’s much easier to catch mistakes at the beginning!