Mazal tov! The wedding day is soon arriving…along with a lot of excitement and anticipation.
So much to be done for the special day, while trying to stay focused on the kedusha and joy. The key to this is to be well prepared.
See More Wedding Prep Tips in These Posts:
Little Wedding Details That’ll Make the Day Stress-Free and How to Create a Schedule for the Day of the Wedding
As soon as your gowns (and men’s/boy’s suits) are picked up, do a full try-on session. This will help you see that all of the foundation garments work well with the gown, shells are the right color and thickness (sometimes 2 shells are needed under sheer fabric!), petticoats are the right length, linings are not sticking out, and there are no loose threads. Doing this in advance gives you the time to fix these small details that make a big difference. Once everything is set, hang each petticoat on the same hanger as the gown so there are no mixups.
Packing well for the wedding will help everyone find what they need right away, and cleanup after the wedding will be so simple!
The Kallah should bring a separate suitcase that she can send home, just with the things she’ll need at the wedding, so that everything is well organized and kept separate. The rest of the family should pack each person separately in a small suitcase or overnight bag. Remember dancing sneakers for everyone (especially little girls–it hurts alot less when a heel pokes into a sneaker than an open Mary Jane!). Make sure to pack double of everything you are bringing, in case of emergency this will be a lifeasaver. A shell even for gown that doesn’t need one is a great backup in case something rips. As each person changes into their gown, the clothing they change out of can go straight into their bag, keeping the room neat and orderly.
Eating properly makes the whole day better! A good filling breakfast is important for the whole family. Make sure to bring along with you to the hall healthy protein and easy to eat foods (nothing saucy ,sticky or colored).
Gatorade (only white!) is an essential, especially for the Chossen and Kallah after they’ve fasted. It will keep everyone energized and hydrated to dance the night away!
Find out in advance what time the photographer is starting pictures, and what time Grandparents and Siblings will need to be there. If everyone involved knows this beforehand, all appointments can be scheduled accordingly, and the pictures can run smoothly, assuring you’ll get the maximum pictures out of the time you have.
Show up to hair and makeup appointments already wearing your shell, and a zip up or button down shirt. This way, nothing will need to be pulled over your head afterwards. (If the little girls dresses are the type that do not have a zipper, let them put them on before they do their hair.) Make sure you know how much you’ll owe in advance, so the money is available as soon as the appointments are over.
The most important focus of the day, but somehow ends up getting “fit in” between all the hectic appointments. So that all tefillos are said properly, this should be planned out well. Shacharis should be first thing in the morning, before anything else. Find out the earliest time the kallah can daven mincha, and work out how she can have a private, quiet space–either in between or after hair and makeup. This should be well before she will be getting dressed. Once the kallah’s mincha is completed, she is always calmer to continue on with her day.
Have someone else bring gowns/petticoats to the hall in advance of your arrival and hang them up. It is hard to get big gowns in and out of the car while juggling overnight bags in your freshly done face and a perfect hair design. Decide ahead who will be pinning the deck tichel in the kallah by the Badeken. She should know where it is (on the chair behind the kallah), how to pin it, and be standing directly behind the kallah. Communicate where the Kesuba will be put after the Chuppa, so there are no misunderstandings. Have someone delegated to take it after the Chuppa is over and put it in that spot.
The little last minute things you may need at the hall can make the whole day smoother. Make sure there are straws for drinking (lipstick!). Shout wipes are amazing for removing makeup from gowns (best friend hugged too tight!). Safety pins are always a basic for the emergencies when no one can sew. Advil and Tylenol are a must, to get everyone through the day feeling well.
Wishing you a calm, scheduled day!
Enjoy your Simcha!