Just how do they manage it all?
From practical tips to getting things done faster, to mental tips to simply be able to cope with the workload…moms of large families have lots to do and they have no choice but to figure it out. We asked a few moms for their best “large family” tips. This is what they shared:
Laundry & Cleaning:
“Buy yourself two washing machines and two dryers. It’s an investment that makes all the difference.”
“When I fold laundry I have a laundry basket for each room spread out and I put the clothing directly into that room’s basket. That way, it takes half the time to put away and also keeps my piles folded well. I do laundry every day otherwise it piles up too quickly.”
“It’s ok if not all the laundry is done. Just keep doing.”
“I clean the house when the kids are in school and the baby is napping. I don’t have cleaning help so I need to make the most of my quiet time.”
“On Motzei Shabbos, there’s no havdalah until everyone chips in and gets the house back in order. It happens much quicker this way.”
Food:
“I have a set menu (For example: Chicken Cutlets on Monday; Chicken Bottoms on Wednesday. I’m flexible with how to season the supper). This way, I don’t need use much mental energy to decide what’s for supper.”
“My children take lunch to school. It’s bagged and frozen so they can just grab and go (rolls, garlic knots…)”
“I have a set menu. Sunday is date night, so it’s pizza or noodles for dinner. Monday is leftovers so I have all day Monday to do housework and not worry about dinner. Tuesday is dairy, Wednesday is fish, and Thursday is meat. I try to be organized about food shopping so that I don’t need to be in the grocery every day.”
Clothing:
“I don’t like too much clothing. Less stuff in the closet keeps it neater and I don’t mind if they wear it out so I have less to store as hand me down.”
Mental:
“Daven daven daven to Hashem.”
“Balance between being organized, but roll with the punches with what shows up day to day. Take a day at a time.”
“I tell my kids—fight now—because when you are married you need each other.”
“I listen to classes while I do tedious work like ironing (7 shirt every day!) so that I don’t feel like I’m drowning in housework. I feel like I’m growing spiritually and mentally.”
“Try to give each child some alone time every so often. Let them join you on errands etc. they are great at keeping track whose turn it is!”
“Sleep well. Everything seems easier when you are well rested. Nothing useful gets done after 11 pm.”
Family is growing? Adapting as you figure out how to manage it all? Share your tips below.
BK says
Listen to a short shuir daily. iTorah and Torah anytime- Daily dose are great. There is also “stories to inspire” that I listen to with my girls. Reminding ourselves daily what our purpose is and what our goal is with all these little people makes the whole day more meaningful.
Adina says
On what hotline are the “Stories to Inspire” located?
Dina says
Bitachon hotline 7327193898
And bnos melachim 7328068139
Yocheved Gluckman says
As a mom of a large family b”h. I wanna add one small note. Spread happiness. Some days are just not gonna work according to our plan, it’s ok!! Be positive! Speak to your kids in a light and happy atmosphere. They feed off our energy. It shows up in them now and later on in life! People like being surrounded with happy kids. Even strangers will pick up the atmosphere from home when your kids are around! Be happy! Simchas Hachayim!!
❤❤❤ Yocheved
Dina says
Bitachon hotline 7327193898
And bnos melachim 7328068139
B says
Look in the mirror every day and tell yourself that you’re a hero! You accomplish Olympic feats daily and no one in the world can be the Mommy that you are to your kids. Standing ovation to you!
Phyllis says
I also got a second washing machine. My laundry closet has a hookup for a sink. I put a second machine there instead.
Best investment.
Miriam says
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Yelena Shapiro says
We have two dishwashers and an extra large sized washer and dryer! SO helpful.
Anonymous says
My biggest tip is skip the multitasking when possible! When you focus on one task at a time it’ll get done faster and better. And there’s nothing that’ll make you feel better than checking things off your to do list faster!! This applies to child rearing too- try to leave your to do list stashed away when the kids are home so that you can give them your undivided attention.
Sara says
Hire whatever help you can afford for whatever isn’t crucial that you do and save your energy for things that really matter. Don’t compare yourself to other people-even though its not easy. Write lots of lists, use instacart and amazon so you don’t need to walk into stores, use a label maker so people know where things go- even if they never put them there 🙂 Take a deep breath and soon everyone will be grown up! But not before you are totally exhausted!
Rifky says
I have lots of young children walking in the door anytime between 3-6 every day. They usually come in hungry. I find making a big pot of super easy soup and leaving it on the stovetop on a low flame all evening is best. I have something hot available for each child (and husband) when they walk in the door. All the soups I make take less than 10 minutes to prepare and are hearty, filling and low calorie-all around win. If I have leftover at the end of the night-a child can bring it to school for lunch for the next day in a thermos or I can have it the next day too! If I have a little extra time in my day I also like to take out a nice container and either cut up a bowl of fruit or vegetables and put that on the table once the kids start walking in-sometimes I’ll put out chumas as a dip too-again totally nutritious and filling.
Rachel Stein says
Rivky, can you post a few soup recipes? That sounds like a great idea! Thanks
Rachel Stein says
Rivky, can u post some of your soup recipes? That sounds like a great idea! Thanks