Instead of expressing guilt to your husband, express your apology with an expression of gratitude. Here’s how– One of the top dubious contributions of Hollywood to the art of relationships (coming up right next to “love at first sight” and “they lived happily ever after”) is the wildly-inaccurate-but-cool-sounding aphorism “Love means never having to say…
From the Heart of a Mother of a Lone Soldier
BCP Contributor Alisa Avruch shares the emotions and experiences of being in the US and having a son in the IDF. On October 7th, I became the mom of a soldier at war. I used to be a regular Jewish mom like you. Focused on carpool, Amazon returns, and finding the perfect one-pan-dinner. Oh, and…
Are You a Frog Farmer?
What does that even mean? Is it you that’s turning your husband into a frog…or a prince? Are you a Frog Farmer? A what? Well, let’s see how to explain this. You see, there are some women who turn frogs into princes. And then… There are some women who turn princes into frogs. What?!? I…
Keeping Hashem in the Picture
How to get in the right frame of mind during the hustle and bustle of these days. Once again, we launch at dizzying speed into the September season. No sooner have we recovered from the between-camp-and-school maelstrom, then it’s school supplies and shoe-store mobs and Oh! What’s on the menu for Rosh Hashana this year? …
How to Handle a Disagreement with Your Husband
There’s a bit of strategy involved when hearing what he wants and expressing your own desires. How does decision-making happen in your family? Does it start with a fight? With you explaining why things should be your way? Do you find yourself “being mevater” to preserve the peace? When do you keep quiet? When do…
Small Things That Deepen Your Marriage Connection
These baby steps go a long way in moving your marriage forward. When I was getting married, I knew intuitively that it was going to require ‘work’. A bad marriage has fights, after all, and cold silences, and mis-matched expectations. Who wanted that? A good marriage, conversely, was presumably one in which both parties work…
How to Get Started Investing for the Future
Is investing something you think you’ll “worry about later?” Which of the following describes you best: I have a plan for retirement and I am on track to retire comfortably with enough money for my desired lifestyle. I know what I should be doing to prepare for retirement but I haven’t done much yet because…
Change Your Relationship with Hashem in One Step
When you put on these glasses, mitzvos aren’t a list of obligations. They’re the most joyful way to acknowledge all the good. Ah, the sounds of Elul. No sooner have we washed the last forgotten beach towel and packed up the trendy knapsacks with shiny new 5-Star notebooks and bubble gum erasers, and suddenly we’re…
FYI: Your Husband Wants a Happy Wife
Even if you think otherwise some of the time. Once in a while, you experience a paradigm shift. You know, when a new piece of information is introduced and suddenly, you’re seeing a situation, or a person, or life… through an entirely new pair of glasses. Like the time when you were 6 and you…
How Could He Sit on The Couch?
You’re rushing around frantically, cleaning for Shabbos, preparing for Sheva Brachos or getting the kids to bed. Ahh, finally, your husband is home. He lets himself in, and collapses on the couch. And he sits. You mop up the splattered tomato sauce. And he sits. You shove errant Legos into containers. And he sits. You narrowly prevent your…