self help
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What I Learned About Setting Boundaries With Difficult People
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When keeping the peace leaves you anxious, resentful, and doubting yourself, it may be time for boundaries. What one woman learned about dealing with the difficult people she loves. When I was younger, I thought difficult people had nothing to do with me. They could be difficult, I could be me, and we could all…
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The Gift Our Children Give Us
We think that we shape our children, but parenting also shapes us along the way. We put so much thought into the people our children are becoming. Are they learning responsibility, self-control, kindness, and respect? Are we giving over the right values? How can we help them manage their emotions, handle disappointment, and make better…
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The Hidden Point System in Our Relationships
Tracking favors can make us feel safe, but it can also cost us real connection. Here’s why we do it, and how to tell if it’s working for you. In the past few months, your sister babysat your kids, baked a cake for your son’s birthday, and brought you a latte. You returned a pair…
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What Season Are You In Right Now?
Some seasons are just meant for holding on. Some seasons are meant for pushing forward. And some seasons are just for holding back. My niece hurt her ankle recently. Nothing dramatic — just enough that she suddenly couldn’t do what she normally does. Almost overnight, she felt off. Not just bored, but thrown off. She’s…
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Why Did I React That Way?
Do you ever experience an extreme emotional reaction–and wonder what caused you to have that impulse? Here’s a small window into what may be going on inside of you, through the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS). Have you ever noticed that you have a strong reaction to a certain situation or particular person? Or…
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The Maybe Game
There are few things we want more during Elul than to be judged favorably. As we stand before Hashem, we hope He sees more than what is visible on the surface. We hope He sees the effort behind the struggle, the intentions behind the mistakes, the victories no one noticed, and the quiet battles no…
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Children and Divorce
No doubt, the experience can be exceedingly painful for children. But when a situation is inevitable, how do you help children still feel positive and confident? How do we help them come out stronger after the challenge of living through divorce? When I was a child, divorce wasn’t a taboo subject. It wasn’t a subject.…
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The Worry Illusion
The cure to your worries lies in separating what you can control and what you can’t. Editor’s Note: Back in 2017, Leah Schapira wrote a post on 10 Things to Say to Yourself When You’re Overwhelmed. It proved to be a classic post that we kept referring back to over the past (almost!) decade. One…
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The Sister I Didn’t Know I Had
If you grew up without a sister, you can still fill the gap. The letter came addressed to me as “Fave Sister.” This may not sound like a big deal, but to me it was. I don’t have a sister. I always wanted a sister. Being the big sister to my younger brother in our…
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How to Put Momentum Back into Your Day
The Pesach marathon is over. Yet, we still need to keep on going…How? How do we find the motivation to finally follow through on all those “after Pesach I will…” goals—whether it’s getting back on track with a diet, setting up therapy for a child, or tackling something we’ve been putting off? There’s no “one…
Filed under: Life Management
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