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Why Did I React That Way?
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Do you ever experience an extreme emotional reaction–and wonder what caused you to have that impulse? Here’s a small window into what may be going on inside of you, through the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS). Have you ever noticed that you have a strong reaction to a certain situation or particular person? Or…
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What If My Simcha Looks Empty?
Are you worried that people won’t be at your simcha? Feel like you don’t have such big social circles. You’re not alone–and you don’t have less friends than anyone else. Here’s why other simchas look “full.” Editor’s Note: A friend told us about this letter which originally appeared in Mishpacha Magazine and it is reprinted…
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Rosh Chodesh Elul: Time to Talk It Out
Chodesh Elul Mazel: Besulah (girl) Human Faculty: Action Yes, it’s that time of year again: The King is in the field. Rav Dessler famously teaches that our calendar is like a circular train route–every station we stop at is another opportunity to load up on specific spiritual gifts. Now that we’ve stopped at the Elul…
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The Maybe Game
There are few things we want more during Elul than to be judged favorably. As we stand before Hashem, we hope He sees more than what is visible on the surface. We hope He sees the effort behind the struggle, the intentions behind the mistakes, the victories no one noticed, and the quiet battles no…
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The Wet Towel Was Not the Problem
Yes, summer, with its schedule challenges, constant buzz of activity, extra laundry, and extra carpools can be a challenging time for women. Instead of complaining to him that you’re left to do the extra work—this is a better game plan. Chani stepped on the wet towel in the hallway and froze. There were bathing suits…
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Children and Divorce
No doubt, the experience can be exceedingly painful for children. But when a situation is inevitable, how do you help children still feel positive and confident? How do we help them come out stronger after the challenge of living through divorce? When I was a child, divorce wasn’t a taboo subject. It wasn’t a subject.…
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How to Get Teens to Listen the First Time Without Being Harsh
If technology is getting in the way of you connecting with your children and keeping them from listening to your instructions, there’s a better way to get through. If you are parenting a teen, you have probably had the moment where a simple request turns into a pattern. You ask. They do not move. You…
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The Sister I Didn’t Know I Had
If you grew up without a sister, you can still fill the gap. The letter came addressed to me as “Fave Sister.” This may not sound like a big deal, but to me it was. I don’t have a sister. I always wanted a sister. Being the big sister to my younger brother in our…
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Climate Control When Dealing with Moody People
If you find yourself in the presence of negativity or difficult people, change your mood in these four quick steps. You look out your window, waiting for spring — when the snow melts into a small pond in your yard. At least indoors, you’re in control. Thankfully, thermostats make it simple to keep things steady.…
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When It’s Not Perfect — But It’s Worth It
If you’re packing up–or inviting guests–for Yom Tov, it’s not always easy. Being emotionally prepared to be spending lots of time with family will make your Yom Tov all the more rewarding. Ten years ago, I wrote about the logistics of moving into your parents’ or in-laws’ home for Yom Tov. Now, after schmoozing it…
Filed under: Family Life
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