relationships
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What I Learned About Setting Boundaries With Difficult People
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When keeping the peace leaves you anxious, resentful, and doubting yourself, it may be time for boundaries. What one woman learned about dealing with the difficult people she loves. When I was younger, I thought difficult people had nothing to do with me. They could be difficult, I could be me, and we could all…
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Should Your Husband Be Your Best Friend?
He’s a lot of things, but filling the shoes of a BFF might be a lot to expect. How to build real friendship in your marriage—and what to save for your girlfriends. Did you dream of spending the rest of your life with your Best Friend? Maybe you are. And maybe… hubby doesn’t quite match…
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The Hidden Point System in Our Relationships
Tracking favors can make us feel safe, but it can also cost us real connection. Here’s why we do it, and how to tell if it’s working for you. In the past few months, your sister babysat your kids, baked a cake for your son’s birthday, and brought you a latte. You returned a pair…
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Welcoming a New Member Into Your Family
How to build connection, trust, and warmth from the first time that new son-in-law or daughter-in-law is at your table. There’s a shift in a family that doesn’t happen at a bris or a baby naming: it happens at the wedding. B”H, someone new is sitting at your table, not as a guest and not…
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Why Did I React That Way?
Do you ever experience an extreme emotional reaction–and wonder what caused you to have that impulse? Here’s a small window into what may be going on inside of you, through the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS). Have you ever noticed that you have a strong reaction to a certain situation or particular person? Or…
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What If My Simcha Looks Empty?
Are you worried that people won’t be at your simcha? Feel like you don’t have such big social circles. You’re not alone–and you don’t have less friends than anyone else. Here’s why other simchas look “full.” Editor’s Note: A friend told us about this letter which originally appeared in Mishpacha Magazine and it is reprinted…
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Rosh Chodesh Elul: Time to Talk It Out
Chodesh Elul Mazel: Besulah (girl) Human Faculty: Action Yes, it’s that time of year again: The King is in the field. Rav Dessler famously teaches that our calendar is like a circular train route–every station we stop at is another opportunity to load up on specific spiritual gifts. Now that we’ve stopped at the Elul…
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The Maybe Game
There are few things we want more during Elul than to be judged favorably. As we stand before Hashem, we hope He sees more than what is visible on the surface. We hope He sees the effort behind the struggle, the intentions behind the mistakes, the victories no one noticed, and the quiet battles no…
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The Wet Towel Was Not the Problem
Yes, summer, with its schedule challenges, constant buzz of activity, extra laundry, and extra carpools can be a challenging time for women. Instead of complaining to him that you’re left to do the extra work—this is a better game plan. Chani stepped on the wet towel in the hallway and froze. There were bathing suits…
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Children and Divorce
No doubt, the experience can be exceedingly painful for children. But when a situation is inevitable, how do you help children still feel positive and confident? How do we help them come out stronger after the challenge of living through divorce? When I was a child, divorce wasn’t a taboo subject. It wasn’t a subject.…
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