Count your blessings, put a smile on your face, and stop complaining.
Originally appeared in “Letters” in Ami Magazine’s AmiLiving.
I would like to comment on the story of the mother who wrote she ruined her daughter’s marriage.
First of all, don’t blame yourself for ruining her marriage; blame yourself for raising such a spoiled kvetch. Since when has the norm become to kvetch about everything that’s not as perfect as you dreamed it would be? I can’t understand why, when I sit at a simcha or talk on the phone with certain people, all they do is kvetch and complain. Sometimes, I can’t even blame them, because that’s all they saw and heard at home. Totty doesn’t bring enough money, Totty doesn’t help enough. My mom, sister, brother, should be doing more, etc. My favorite is an acquaintance of mine who always “complained” how hard it is to take care of her elderly mother because all she does is “complain!” If you need help, hire it. I know it costs money, so do as I do, cut corners somewhere else. I don’t buy myself new clothes, jewelry (even cheap costume jewelry), accessories, etc., because I feel my cleaning help is important. You’re tired, take a nap, make it work. You need a vacation? Do as I did, I went with my friend to sit at the water for a few hours to unwind. Maybe you think I am middle-aged, or something like that. No, I am young. A mother of six little kids, and I really try to never complain and just count my blessings.
I recently had a medical procedure done and called my doctor the next day with a question. The first thing I told him was, “Don’t worry, everything is ok.” Then I asked him my question. After he answered me, he said, “You know, you are a great patient.” I had a similar experience during my visits to my orthopedist after I broke a bone badly. At every visit, he asked how I feel, and I always said, “I’m fine.” He always looked at the nurse and said, “She never complains!” I shudder to think about how people kvetch on their poor doctors’ heads. This is not to say you can’t tell a doctor what’s bothering you, but endless kvetching? Come on and grow up! Count your blessings and put a smile on your face.
It will change your life.
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