There’s a bit of strategy involved when hearing what he wants and expressing your own desires. How does decision-making happen in your family? Does it start with a fight? With you explaining why things should be your way? Do you find yourself “being mevater” to preserve the peace? When do you keep quiet? When do…
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How To Have Meaningful Conversations, With The People You Love
The key is to come prepared. Sometimes, it just happens, naturally. Sometimes, it just does not. We have all been there. A restaurant outing that just falls flat, a birthday dinner where the conversation just does not flow. You would be surprised, but the key, really, is asking the right questions. Just like a good…
Small Things That Deepen Your Marriage Connection
These baby steps go a long way in moving your marriage forward. When I was getting married, I knew intuitively that it was going to require ‘work’. A bad marriage has fights, after all, and cold silences, and mis-matched expectations. Who wanted that? A good marriage, conversely, was presumably one in which both parties work…
Rephrasing Words in a Positive Way
Often, the same thing said a bit differently–can change everything! A while back Esti asked the team, “What’s a piece of advice you got when you were young that you still refer back to?” One of the pieces of advice that Shaindy shared sparked a discussion. She told us, “Don’t apologize all the time. Instead of…
FYI: Your Husband Wants a Happy Wife
Even if you think otherwise some of the time. Once in a while, you experience a paradigm shift. You know, when a new piece of information is introduced and suddenly, you’re seeing a situation, or a person, or life… through an entirely new pair of glasses. Like the time when you were 6 and you…
Having Chashivus HaTorah: What is Our Role?
What does “Encouraging a Husband” really mean? What is our responsibility when we’re told to encourage our husbands to learn? What kind of encouragement actually works? Interview with Rebbetzin Shula Sternbuch, originally appeared in NShei HaSiyum, published by Agudah Yisrael on the occasion of the 13th Siyum HaShas at Metlife Stadium on January 1, 2020….
When Is Sibling Rivalry Considered Extreme?
Sibling rivalry is very normal. Kids fight, and you feel better when we tell you that. But how do you know if it’s really not normal? Sibling Rivalry is normal. It’s hard to share your space, your stuff and your parents; it’s hard not to compare yourself to someone who is in your face all…
How Could He Sit on The Couch?
You’re rushing around frantically, cleaning for Shabbos, preparing for Sheva Brachos or getting the kids to bed. Ahh, finally, your husband is home. He lets himself in, and collapses on the couch. And he sits. You mop up the splattered tomato sauce. And he sits. You shove errant Legos into containers. And he sits. You narrowly prevent your…
Parenting as a Trauma Survivor: Learning to Do It Differently
Did you experience trauma in your own childhood, which affects how you relate or view your own childrens’ experiences? If you’re anything like the typical BCP reader, you find yourself drawn to articles that speak to both your head and your heart. That’s why I’m so happy to be here. I’ve finally found the people…
Are You Good at Receiving? (Funny Question?)
You might think that is a funny question. But, in truth, some of us are really not good at it. Ever wonder why some people get the help they need when they need it, without having to twist anyone’s arm off to get it? Ever wonder why some people just receive gifts, constantly? Receiving is…
