Have you ever felt stuck on the ‘I have to’ train? The busy frum woman has endless things to do, every single day and it’s far too easy to get bogged down. Read on for my favorite trick.
‘I have to get dinner in the oven, it’s almost time to eat and I have nothing planned.’
‘I have to get this load of laundry up, she has no clean undershirts left.’
‘I have to bathe the baby again, he’s a mess, he can’t go to sleep like that.’
‘I have to get lunches ready.’
‘Have to bring the baby to the doctor.’
‘Have to reach out to his Rebbi again.’
‘Have to start making Shabbos.’
Is your head hurting? Mine too. As frum women, our ‘have-to’ lists are endless. If you take one mother and add one house, one (or two?) jobs, three meals a day, several children, even more bills, and even more laundry, the total equals approximately: very overwhelming.
Ready for the word switch that changed my mindset completely? Turn ‘have’ into ‘get.’ I get to make dinner for this household full of little people. I get to bathe the baby and enjoy some little giggles on the way. I get to make delicious Shabbos food for the people in my house to enjoy. I get to break up the fights, I get to help with homework, I get to sneak some snuggles in at bedtime. I get to, I get to, I get to.
So yes, my list is still endlessly long. But now, it’s full of things that I get to do, every single day. Try flipping some ‘haves’ to ‘gets’ on your list, and let us know how it goes!
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