You’re rushing around frantically, cleaning for Shabbos, preparing for Sheva Brachos or getting the kids to bed. Ahh, finally, your husband is home. He lets himself in, and collapses on the couch. And he sits. You mop up the splattered tomato sauce. And he sits. You shove errant Legos into containers. And he sits. You narrowly prevent your…
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Parenting as a Trauma Survivor: Learning to Do It Differently
Did you experience trauma in your own childhood, which affects how you relate or view your own childrens’ experiences? If you’re anything like the typical BCP reader, you find yourself drawn to articles that speak to both your head and your heart. That’s why I’m so happy to be here. I’ve finally found the people…
Are You Good at Receiving? (Funny Question?)
You might think that is a funny question. But, in truth, some of us are really not good at it. Ever wonder why some people get the help they need when they need it, without having to twist anyone’s arm off to get it? Ever wonder why some people just receive gifts, constantly? Receiving is…
What Are We Supposed to Do When a Child is Chutzpadik?
Rabbi Dov Brezak changes our perspective on chutzpah…and offers practical solutions. Let’s study chutzpah: Attitude, aka chutzpah, is all over the place. The likes of which we’ve never seen. Children calling their parents by their first names, children hitting their parents, children throwing things at parents, parents afraid of children basically. It exists. And some…
How to Get Your Husband to Never Forget a Birthday
He really really does want you to be happy. Even if he does sometimes forget. Sora had a beautiful relationship with her husband, Ezra. They were perfectly matched. Not because they liked the same style of music – they didn’t. Not because they were similar personalities – they weren’t. Not because they enjoyed the same…
4 Ways You Can Help Your Husband Be a Better Spouse
Often, when someone is a poor spouse, it’s because they didn’t have the right opportunities growing up to develop secure relationships. But you can help your spouse fix that by giving them the security they didn’t get before. When a baby is born it doesn’t take long for him to often exclusively want his mother….
Talking Points: Stay Connected With Your Child Even from a Long Distance
Be prepared and you won’t waste another chance to reconnect on your next phone call. Some kids are just not good at phone calls. Chances are they’re not very good at responding to your questions about their day in person either, but when they’re living at home there’s a good chance you’ll get some conversation…
We Asked 10 Different Women How They Self Care
Our conclusion? There is no wrong way. As long as what you do, helps you be a better “you”. So, you packed two kids for camp. You cleaned up end-of-school year briefcases. You made sure everyone has at least 2 bathing suits that fit. You filled out wayyyy too many forms. You even took them…
10 Things Not to Do When Your Kid Complains
It’s really not fun to listen to a child complaining. But it’s more manageable when we know how to handle it. I’ve always had a hard time with my kid’s complaints. It brought up a lot of feelings, unpleasant feelings such as, “I didn’t do enough.” Or, “I’m spoiling her. Can’t she just get on…
A Child Went Behind His Mother’s Back. Rabbi Brezak Explains How to Respond.
If your child is doing dangerous things, often punishing doesn’t work. This is what does. Parenting Challenge: We allow my seven-year-old to ride his bike near the house. Our street is very long, and we let him go down the entire street; but he knows he has to stay near the house and come home…
