You’ve gotten advice, some of it may have been very good. But now it’s time to debunk three common marriage myths. When you got married, you probably had a lot of well-meaning marriage advice coming at you from all directions – from your great-aunt Mirel, your sheitel macher, the sweet Russian lady who hemmed your…
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How to Handle That Dinnertime Tantrum
Your child is throwing a fit because he doesn’t like your dinner and he won’t eat it. So, what do you do? What is the most effective way to parent in the following scenario? A seven-year-old boy consistently “drives his mother crazy.” He came home one night and asked what was for supper. “Chicken and…
This is the Best Way to Say “No” to a Child
There’s a reason why we tell our children “No.” And it’s not because we’re a mean Mommy. One day last year, my friend and I were walking home from the park together with our kids. As we strolled and chatted, the little ones started running ahead. When they approached the one street we needed to…
Have a Parenting Question? Need Personal Guidance? This is the Number to Call
For decades, Susan Lamm and Sterna Lerman of Torah u’Mesorah’s Counterforce have been guiding parents. Now, they’ve launched a new helpline to give you the tools you need to deal with any issue, big or small. Lots of us attend parenting classes. But what do you do when you need more personal attention, and a…
One Eye-Opening Tip That Will Make Your Marriage Better
It may seem obvious, but turning to your third partner in your marriage–Hashem–during certain moments will change everything. Read on for some real life impacting tips! If you close your eyes and picture the most blessed atmosphere in your home, the most majestic feel in your marriage, what would it be? Happiness, contentment, peace, love,…
How to Be Firm with a Child without Overpowering Them
You don’t need to fight or overpower a child when they’re not listening. This is what to do instead. In our last discussion in this post we wrote that being firm can be good for a child. We also wrote that fighting with a child is not chinuch. We explained the difference. Fighting means when…
Don’t Go To Sleep Angry: The Biggest Myth in Marriage Advice, and What To Do Instead.
Sometimes, you need to step away to see things with clarity. The advice was: don’t go to sleep angry. Maybe you tried it. And hurting from a painful conversation and taxed emotionally, tired physically, and riled up hormonally, you still made up and smoothed things out. But there is a better way to resolve conflict….
How Can I Be Firm without Fighting with My Child?
Firm , Fight , Afraid . What do these three words have in common? Parents are often not firm with their children when firmness would be good for the children. The reason they are not firm when they should be firm is that they are afraid to fight with the child. They know that fighting…
3 Ways to Diffuse (or Avoid) an Argument
Some people love an argument. They find joy in having those debates and “discussions.” Others have a short fuse or just end up arguing with you when you really never intended. Do you find yourself in these situations occasionally? Don’t like how you get pulled into these kinds of argument? Here are three quick tips…
How Young Couples Can Best Use Their Extra Time Together
Many young women in their first years of marriage face a not uncommon struggle. When it was just specific times spent together, you looked forward to each planned evening. Now that you’re in the same house, suddenly there is just so. much. time. Time to be together. (Shouldn’t we be… like… working on our marriage?)…
